Recently I was re-introduced (twice) to the simple but powerful book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
Putting on my parenting hat, I am very sure that I must get these agreements tattooed to my forearms so they are always in close range.
Go ahead, test out their relevance in everyday parenting situations. I bet you can find a million ways in which they apply to your relationship with yourself, your partner (or any supporting player) and most surely your child.
- Be Impeccable with Your Word.
a) Speak with integrity.
b) Say only what you mean.
c) Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
d) Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
- Don’t Take Anything Personally
a) Nothing others do is because of you.
b) What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.
c) When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
- Don’t Make Assumptions
a) Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.
b) Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.
c) With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
- Always Do Your Best
a) Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.
b) Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.