When I was seven years old, I kicked a girl in the shin in the schoolyard. My leather-soled Oxford shoes cut right through her navy tights. She wasn't nice to me. She was downright mean. So I decided not to be nice to her. With my foot. We invited each other to birthday parties when … Continue reading Drop the Obligationships
Our dog Frankie has become my son's best friend. And lately this little rag-a-muffin has become a great conduit for gentle parenting. Hey kids, not sure how you feel about math? No problem. Teach it to your dog in what my son refers to as The Dog Days of Summer School. You ask the math question … Continue reading Dogs: Parent’s Best Friend, Too
This one goes out to my fellow control fanatics (hey, don't call us freaks!). Sometimes, not having control in a situation makes me a little looney. I finally unraveled why. Here's a perfect example: Ten years ago I was invited to Thanksgiving dinner by a member of my extended family. We drank wine. We laughed. … Continue reading I’d Like an Order of Control with a Side of Over-responsibility
We're not in a race. Go slowly and allow yourself space to grow into. Take your time. You don't need to reach your maximum until your last breath. - As heard at Soul Shack Yoga, North Hollywood, CA I nearly jumped off of my mat in the middle of a standing crescent pose in order to write … Continue reading Note to Self: Pace Yourself
For years I've been trying to shake a seemingly innate ability to worry about just about anything and everything. Like it's my job. Like I would be irresponsible if I weren't worrying. Like somehow my incessant worrying would tip the balance in order to allow for the positive outcome. Because I wanted it so much and … Continue reading I’m a Warrior, Not a Worrier
Recently I was re-introduced (twice) to the simple but powerful book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Putting on my parenting hat, I am very sure that I must get these agreements tattooed to my forearms so they are always in close range. Go ahead, test out their relevance in everyday parenting situations. I bet … Continue reading The Four Agreements…for Parenting!
Had a dream last week about something that's currently going on in my personal life. I won't bore you with nonsensical details, but in the dream I was told NOT TO TALK ABOUT the situation for three weeks. Just let it rest...let it cool off for a while. Very specifically, for three weeks. Hugely challenging since … Continue reading Let’s Talk About Not Talking